Friday, March 14, 2008

I am sooooo a follower!!

1) What is your relationship status?

2) Who is your favorite band/artist?

neil diamond

3) What is your favorite movie?

to kill mockingbird

4) What kind of pet do you have?


5) Where do you work?


6) What do you look like?

7) Where do you live?


8) What do you drive?

explorer sign

9) What's your favorite tv show?

New Adventures Of Old Christine

10) Describe yourself.


11) What's your name?


12) What is your favorite candy?


Wednesday, March 12, 2008


I can think of not one woman in social or political power who has had to resign from any elected position - or any position of leadership, for that matter - because of ..hmmm.. sexual impropriety, let's say. I mean, seriously, dudes, what the fuck???!!?


Sunday, March 02, 2008


Is this the beginning of the end or the end of the beginning? Although I often find myself confused and my life confounding - but I guess that isn't really a "find," now is it - I think that I am wading my way out of the foggy depression that has been my comfort for a number of years. While so far beyond utterly thrilled to find myself here, I need to be aware of the road that I took...what if I need to get here again without the benefit of wine?

Friday, February 29, 2008

Hold-on to your balls!

With their stunning loss to the Cubs (blech) yesterday, in the Giants first exhibition game, the BASEBALL season has officially begun - "Fasten your seat belts, it's going to be a bumpy ride!"

(The classic line, slightly misquoted, uttered by Bette Davis in All About Eve.)

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Outside the box

Sometimes I find that what is going on in my head has absolutely nothing to do with reality, but it is a safer place to live. I guess this is what is known as denial, but if I don’t deny that I am aware of this, then I guess its okay. There are all sorts of defensive tactics that people employ to survive living from one day to the next; denial is simply one of many, a means to an end. The resulting comfort is a welcome byproduct…or maybe I’m just crazy.

Saturday, February 16, 2008

30, 51+, where have all the flowers gone?

I hesitate - well, a bit, anyway - to bring this up again, but a WOW widow is not a good look on me. As my daughter reads this blog on occasion, and for various other reasons, this is probably not the wisest course of action - but you should be happy to know that, after 30 years, some things are still vital - a woman has needs!! Okay, that's all I'm sayin' 'bout that!
"I hate lying to them, but I couldn't stand Mom looking at me the way---"
"The way she looks at me?" I smiled. "Life's too long to live for them."
Beneath Our Skin ~ Lauren Faulkenberry
There you have it - it isn't that life is too short...the fact is that life is just too long to not live your life for you! It is YOUR life, afterall, take it, capture it, seize it and do with it what you will.

Wednesday, February 06, 2008

The Year of Living Frugally
Live Cheap, Die Rich
These are a couple of titles my incredibly imaginative imagination came-up with when I decided to blog about a a change I have recently made in my life (Small Change). There are, however, several reasons why they quite simply just do not work - without walking through the boring grammatical issues, I'll admit the main problem with them is that they do not embody the truth. Here it is: I have made a decision to buy no personal, accessory-type items for myself for 12 months - purses, shoes, clothes, books, cds. I am just under 40 days into the pursuit of lightening my load, and have made no such purchases. Now, this was not done for any sort of alturistc reason (it isn't as though I am now giving more money to charity or anything of that ilk); frankly, I am running out of room, and I just do not need anything else. Happily, I have discovered there is more expendable cash to point toward other things that make life more pleasant - added features on my cell phone, an expanded cable line-up, turning on the heat. It is painfully obvious that I have either decided that I can treat myself better or that I am allowed certain extravagances - maybe I'm just trading one thing for another, but at least I don't need to rush out for more hangers.

Sunday, January 27, 2008

I was just reading an article - well, not so much reading the article as wondering about the title - "What Makes a Good Marriage?" This year, I will celebrate 30 years of marriage, and I will say that it is as simple and complicated as easy and as difficult as this: it takes work. If you want it to work, you will work at it. Yes, I understand that it takes two - if you love someone, and they just want to screw everything that isn't nailed down - and some things that are - or they prefer smoking crack to having an intellectual discussion, obviously, the relationship has issues. Barring such glaring need-someone-even-greater-than-Dr. Phil problems that need resolving, the sowing will result in the harvest. What, how much, how far you are willing to give, grant and go is entirely up to you, but the investment can truly offer rewards. It can be worth the time and the effort. As mentioned in Prime, however, you might want to think at least a half-dozen times before investing in a game console or World of Warcraft membership...I'm just sayin'.

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Heath Ledger died today. I do not understand why the passing of a movie star - and I use the phrase fairly loosely - should have such a profound effect on me - except that he and my child are about the same age and his very young daughter is left to face the world without a father, I really do not get it. But I don't have to understand the whys of everything - it just really makes me very sad.

Sunday, January 20, 2008

...if you bring off adequate preservation of your personal myth, nothing much else in life matters. It is not what happens to people that is significant, but what they think happens to them.
Anthony Powell
Books Do Furnish a Room

Saturday, January 19, 2008


So, my daughter dedicated a recent blog posting to gratitude, and she posed the "what are you grateful for?" question. Not declaring my areas of thankfulness directly on her blog is a conscious (conscience?) decision - better to just list that stuff here - I'm not saying that it makes sense; it just is.

* I have a wonderful child with whom I have a quite outstanding relationship.
* I have a good marriage.
* My remarkable husband is so precisely due to his unremarkableness.
* Wine is back in my life.
* Strength to leave it all behind - and actually happier as a byproduct.
* Getting over myself.
* No longer wishing that I had sisters.
* Never being hungry, without the easy opportunity to feel filled.
* Being healthy in my body and my mind (thank you, Juno soundtrack).
* Freedom to practice whatever religion I desire in whatever fashion suits me.
* Truly fabulous friends - very few, but really fabulous.
* To have the chance to simply say, "I am grateful."

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...if you chose to go into someone else's reality, you had to be willing to walk. There were no shortcuts.
alice sebold
the almost moon

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

As I was wandering through Costco (I believe that I have alluded to, if not directly mentioned, this sickness that I have), I heard someone call my name. I turned around and there was this little old woman - really, little and old and woman - who I have known practically all my life; she is a good friend of my mother's. So, "I'm here avec your mom, but I said, 'I don't care; I'm going to say hello.'" And she did, and she wagged her little-old-lady finger at me and made certain that I understood, "If you see me and I don't see you, you come and tell me hello!" And I will, and I am grateful.

All I knew was that in not speaking to her, it felt as if I were storing nuts or bullets. I grew stronger every day.
alice sebold
the almost moon

Wednesday, January 02, 2008

another year over and a new one just begun

Stuff - I have too much of it, and quite frankly, I am ready to do a massive cleansing, body, soul and spirit...and, yes, a deep, unsentimental purging of the home as well. I need to be grateful for all that I have; less on the shopping front is a good place to start.

Finding that place inside myself to store away the emotional enemies that I no longer need - maybe I never did - should help in this process as well. In doing so, it is possible that I will uncover other shoved-down feelings that could use a good airing out. Out with the old (bad) in with the new (good).

Continuing on the precarious road to complete, honest and true forgiveness will, I believe, lead me to the milk-and-honey land where I can love my neighbor as myself; accomplishing love of self is the first step; I must take that one in order to progress on the journey.

Off, I go then.

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I did not want to leave my children. I had loved them both immediately. They were my splendor and my protection, both something to safeguard and something to safeguard me.
alice sebold the almost moon